Our story begins 8 years ago with the birth of my first son. I had planned a natural birth. I had attended all my Lamaze classes and felt prepared…I wasn’t. I wasn't informed or prepared for the events about to take place. I had no idea of my rights as a mother or how unnecessary medical interventions would be performed on me because I didn't know I could say no.
This pregnancy, while very much wanted, was a surprise in many ways. I kept expecting it to go just like my other pregnancies and I was so thrown when things were different! I started getting practice pressure waves around week 36 and they gradually grew in strength and frequency during the lead up to our guess date. By the time our guess date (1/29/17) rolled around, I was very ready for her to be born, but since our other two had both gone past 41 weeks, I was firmly planning on having a February baby. Our last Hypnobabies birth went pretty quickly, so we were a little bit worried about figuring out the timing of who could help up with our older girls and had many contingency plans in place for who we could call depending on the time and day of the week. During the night/early morning of Jan 30th, my body woke me up at 1am with strong pressure waves coming every 7 minutes. I listened to my tracks and tried to sleep with little success, although I got into a nice relaxed sort of haze.
It was the last full week of October and I was busy counting down the last 2 weeks of work. Our baby had been posterior or “sunny side up” from about 36 weeks so I had been spending lots of time on my hands and knees, doing inversions and seeing a chiropractor for some Webster technique adjustments. At our appointment at 37 weeks and 6 days we found out that he had turned anterior! Later that evening I went for another chiropractic adjustment and our chiropractor Rochelle said that things felt good. She also thought she could feel his hand by his face. I went to bed that evening and then awoke at midnight to my water breaking. I was so surprised!
I never really had expectations of birth education or birthing. I always assumed things would work out like you see in the movies. We would spend nine months laughing about pregnancy cravings, go to all the normal check-ups, and then give birth in the hospital. I didn’t think I would have much of an opinion on birth details and for the next nine months was going to agree with every decision my wife made. Things didn’t exactly work out that way....
OK, so we’re having a baby. That’s amazing! But now what?! As a first time dad, the process and experience of childbirth education, the birth itself and caring for a new little one can definitely be overwhelming. But don’t worry, I’m here to tell you that with a little bit of preparation and gained confidence, I was totally ready for the joys and craziness that I now can cherish forever. Everyone’s birth story is different and unique and maybe that is what makes it so special. This is our birth story, from my perspective as a first-time dad.
The night before our birthing time I didn’t feel very good. We were watching the football game and went to bed early because I just felt “off”. I was very restless and I woke up often to go to the bathroom. I couldn’t figure out what was keeping me up.
Around 3:00am I couldn’t fall back asleep. That’s when I realized that it was pressure waves that had been waking me up. I’d probably been having them all night and barely noticed! Since I wasn’t sure if they were the real deal or just practice waves I tried to sleep as much as possible. Then around 4:00am I woke Derek and told him I thought things might be happening. He started timing each wave. We kept everything very quiet while I started listening to the tracks. It was really nice, which is not something most people say about giving birth!
My name is Brooke and I had two boys delivered using the induction process and epidurals. After both deliveries I had lower back pain, wasn’t very happy, and it hurt to move around. We had a family doctor who we love help deliver Wyatt and Ethan. However she wanted to raise her own family so she cut back her hours and no longer did OB/GYN care. So for my third pregnancy we had to find a different provider. We originally went with a doctor in the same clinic however we just were not clicking, our personalities clashed and I didn’t feel like I was being taken care of. So a friend of mine told me about midwives so we decided to check out this type of care and fell in love with them. We were so happy with how much care they provided both for me and for my baby. This same friend also recommended Hypnobabies as well to make the birthing a special positive experience.
I couldn’t wait to have another Hypnobaby! I remember saying that within the same day that my second baby (but first Hypnobabies baby) was born. I loved educating moms about Hypnobabies and had several friends go on to have Hypnobabies births after I had my second. We were surprised and excited to find out that our third baby was due sometime in February of 2016.
I knew that I would use Hypnobabies again. Without a doubt, the birth of my son was such a beautiful experience and I wanted to create that again. I practiced hypnosis and listened to my tracks starting at around 30 weeks gestation. I seemed to fall asleep every time I listened. I enjoyed that peaceful time of each day.
My first birth left a lot to be desired. My son came at 35 weeks and it was not the hospital birth I had imagined or wanted. I felt like I missed out and I knew there was a better way to give birth. My husband (Darrell) and I discussed home birth for our next baby but ultimately decided on a birth center. I found my awesome midwife, Cheryl, who I love and trust and started to get excited as I knew I was on the right path. After researching natural birthing methods online, Hypnobabies sounded perfect for me. The birth stories and videos were amazing and I felt it was exactly what I needed to achieve my desired birth. I also started looking for a doula as soon as we found out I was pregnant and decided a hypno-doula would make sense. I hit the jackpot when I found Anne who ended up being my doula, class instructor, placenta encapsulator and one of my biggest supporters throughout my pregnancy and birthing time.
Click HERE to read the rest of Ashley's story at Hypnobabies.com.
(Hypnobabies students please use your Bubble of Peace to read this story. We love how it shows that not all births can or should be a natural, vaginal birth but that you can use your Hypnobabies tools no matter what path your birthing takes!)
Our birth story actually began the week after class ended, 11 weeks before our crazy Tuesday, May 31st.
The week after class ended I was diagnosed with Cholestasis of Pregnancy, which puts baby at risk after week 36/37. I was transferred from midwife care to an OB, I began taking medication daily, I had weekly ultrasounds and blood draws and every other week clinic visits.